No matter how much attention, reassurance, affection, or support you give, it is never enough. This Gonzalez & Waddington tutorial is educational, not legal advice. If you have a live investigation or court-martial, call 1-800-921-8607.
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Should I talk to CID, NCIS, OSI, or CGIS after watching this?
No. Appear if ordered. Do not waive rights. Do not consent to a phone search. Invoke Article 31(b) and call counsel the same day.
What if investigators say they just want my side?
That is evidence collection. Do not clear it up. Stop talking, write a private timeline for counsel, and call Gonzalez & Waddington: 1-800-921-8607.
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Video transcript
Transcript of the video “False Allegations Military: When Neediness Turns Into Charges,” with Michael Waddington of Gonzalez & Waddington.
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Number seven red flag: chronic emptiness. It’s the black hole of neediness. No matter what you do, it’s never enough. They always need more attention, more reassurance, more proof that you care. It’s usually a one-way street, by the way.
And the moment you get tired, or you’re actually doing something like working or doing something productive (the moment you stop feeding their ego), that’s when they flip the script. Suddenly you’re neglectful, emotionally abusive, uncaring, not meeting their emotional needs, not loving them. You’re the bad person, and they’ll start looking for a replacement (which can be a good thing for you) before you even know what hit you. Or they’ll turn on you, throw allegations against you, and just try to destroy your life. Either way, not a good outcome.
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